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Wow haven’t posted anything here in almost 3 months.Ah ! well better little than none…

Just thought I’ll post the following advices I found somewhere….I had written them down ages ago whilst listening to a bayan by Shaykh Sulaiman Moola .

Four Hiqmas of Dawood A.S

A sign of  intellect in a man is that he has four moments in his life:

1) A moment daily where he communicates with his Creator Almighty Allah

2) A moment where he does some soul-searching and introspection.

3)A moment where he socializes with his friends who can help him identify his wrong so he can improve him self.

4)A moment where he satisfies his needs and desires within the perimeters of shariah.

May Allah grant us the ability to practice one these 4 hiqmas aameen ..


Add a comment March 20, 2011

Advice on Marriage – Guaranteed to work

MashaAllah very beneficial advices by Mufti Ishmail Menk ….

May Allah Swt enable us to treat our spouses the way we should insha’Allah,May Allah swt place muhabbah and muwaddah in our marriages and make us the coolness to the eyes of our spouses aameen wa thumma aameen ..

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Add a comment December 31, 2010

I love you for the sake of Allah <3

Narrated by Mu`adh Bin Jabal [may Allah be pleased with him]: Allah’s Messenger [Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him] said, “Allah, the Exalted, has said:

For those who love one another for the sake of My Glory, there will be seats of light (on the Day of Standing), and they will be envied by the Prophets and Martyrs“.


Narrated by Abu Dharr Ghifaari [may Allah be pleased with him]: Allah’s Messenger [Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him] said: “The best of deeds is to love for the sake of Allah and to hate for the sake of Allah”.
[Sunan Abu Dawood: 4582]

Add a comment December 21, 2010

Forgiving others- Sheikh Zahir Mahmood

What an inspiring talk masha’Allah…(it’s not the full lecture but just an extract)

Just my thoughts after listening to it .

As humans we are weak and not perfect we always and will always err but we should try our best to rectify that wrong.We may say something to someone in jest or we may mean it,or we disagree upon something which leads to the other being hurt. We may do something knowingly or unknowingly which may annoy someone,cause them to be troubled or inconvenience them in someway or the other.

It’s human nature and we can’t say we never or will never hurt someone. Everyone is different with different personalities and temperaments.They could be our parents,spouses,siblings,friends our a random stranger on the street.

But what should we do? Should we leave the person and feel great inside that we have cause them some grief?Do we express arrogance that we are right and they were wrong?Do we stand up for our rights and during that time we cause more hurt to the person or persons?. Is that the character of Momin? Is that the way a Muslim should be with others?.

مَن تَوَاضَعَ لِلّهِ رَفَعَهُ اَللّهُ وَمَنْ تَكَبَّرَ وَضَعَهُ اَللّهُ

” Whoever humbles himself for the sake of Allah,Allah raises him;and whoever is arrogant.Allah degrades him” (Bayhaqi,Shu’ab l-imam)

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “And no one humbles himself before Allaah but Allaah will raise him (in status).”

Humbleness is to know the value of oneself, to avoid pride, or disregarding the truth and underestimating people. As the Prophet sallallahu `alaihi wa sallam said, according to Muslim and others, “Al-Kibr is rejecting the truth and looking down upon people”

[Muslim, Tirmidhi and Abu Dawud].

So we should be humble towards others and forgive them.Yes I said to FORGIVE!! forgiving someone who does you wrong is not an easy thing.We have to swallow our pride,be humble and forgive.Do not dwell over the past,forgive,forget and move on with your life. This world is temporary,we are here only for a short while.Why should we spoil our time in this Dunya hurting people and stressing our self out about what others said or did to hurt us?.

Prophet Muhammad Sal’Allahualayhi wasalam stated that Allah forgives all sins if we repent but not those we have committed against others i.e. hurt their feelings unless the person we have hurt forgives first.He can also forgive the “Huququllah”(rights towards Allah swt) if He so wishes for example  (salah,fasting,zakaat etc) .Allah is Ghafoor and Raheem!! but………………………..

The “Huqooqul-Ibaad” (the rights of servants) if we hurt someone intentionally,abuse,backbite/slandered,taunted etc etc and we don’t seek forgiveness in this dunya when we are alive and well. On Yaum ul Qiyaamah Allah swt will not forgive us,He will tell us to go to that person we have wronged in this dunya and seek his pardon.Tell me readers? will anyone on that the Day care about anyone?everyone will be worried about their own salvation on that day and will be looking for any good deeds to add to their book of records.The person we have wronged if he doesn’t forgive us then Allah alone knows what our outcome will be,he can be recompensed on that day and we will be doomed ( may Allah save us aameen)

If due to some valid Shari’ reason, you cannot ask the person directly to forgive you or cannot repay the right due to him, because of, for example him having passed away, etc. then you should always and regularly make dua for his forgiveness and that Allah Ta’ala have mercy on him and grant him a much better and greater recompense. It is not surprising or beyond Him, that Allah Ta’ala will satisfy him on the Day of Qiyamat and have it forgiven.

If you have the ability to seek forgiveness and make Istigfar for that person, then do so immediately. Do not delay or be lax in this.

We are so sinful, we disobey Allah swt daily and yet if we turn to Him with Ikhlaas and repent.He will forgive us as He is the Most Merciful the Most Kind.

When the Prophet Muhammad Sal’Allahualayhi wasalam asked his Companions ‘do you wish that Allah should forgive you’ they said, of course O Prophet of Allah. He responded, ‘then forgive each other’.

If Our Creator Allah Ta’ala is the Most Forgiving,the most merciful it becomes incumbent on the slave to adopt this quality and forgive His fellow brother or sister.

If we expect Allah to forgive us than we must learn to forgive.
May Allah cleanse our hearts from all spiritual illnesess and make it easy for us to love each other for His sake and to Forgive for His sake . Aameen wa thumma aameen.

To anyone reading this who knows me 🙂 If I have ever wronged you in anyway or said or done anything to offend you please forgive me for Allah’s sake .

أحبك في سبيل الله

I love you for the sake of Allah!!


Add a comment December 14, 2010

A beautiful poem by Imam al-Shafi’i


دع الأيام تفعل ما تشاء *** وطب نفسا إذا حكم القضاء
ولا تجزع لحادثة الليالي *** فما لحوادث الدنيا بقاء

وكن رجلا على الأهوال جلدا *** وشيمتك السماحة والوفاء
وإن كثرت عيوبك في البرايا *** وسرك أن يكون لها غطاء

يغطى بالسماحة كل عيب *** وكم عيب يغطيه السخاء
ولا حزن يدوم ولا سرور *** ولا بؤس عليك ولا رخاء

ولا ترج السماحة من بخيل *** فما في النار للظمآن ماء
ورزقك ليس ينقصه التأني *** وليس يزيد في الرزق العناء

إذا ما كنت ذا قلب قنوع *** فأنت ومالك الدنيا سواء
ومن نزلت بساحته المنايا *** فلا أرض تقيه ولا سماء

وأرض الله واسعة ولكن *** إذا نزل القضا ضاق القضاء
دع الأيام تغدر كل حين *** ولا يغني عن الموت الدواء

Let days go forth and do as they please
And remain firm when settled is the Decree

Don’t be afraid of what happens by night
For the affairs of this world are not to last

And be a man, strong in the face of calamities
And let your nature be that of kindness and honesty

If your faults become too much in front of the people
And you wish that they were to be concealed,

Then know that kindness covers all faults
And how many faults are kept hidden by kindness!

No sadness lasts forever, nor any happiness
And you shall not remain in poverty, or any luxury

Generosity cannot be hoped from the miserly
For no water exists in the Fire for the thirsty

Your provision will not be lessened due to life’s delays
And it cannot be increased due to your haste

If, in your heart, you possess contentment
Then you and those who possess the world are equal

And for him upon whose horizon death descends,
No earth can offer him protection, nor any sky

Indeed, the earth of Allah is certainly vast
But if decree descends, then decree is constricted

Let days be the ones that betray you at all times
For no cure can avail a person of death

Add a comment December 13, 2010

The planning of The Almighty is better for you than your own planning

“The planning of The Almighty (Allaah) is better for you than your own planning, and He could deprive you from what you ask to test your patience. So let Him see from you a determined patience and you will soon see from Him what will give you joy. And when you have cleaned the paths of answering (of supplication) from the stains of sin [i.e have repented] and were patient about what He has chosen for you, then everything that happens to you is better for you whether you were given or deprived of what you have requested.”

[Imaam ibn Al-Jawzee]


Add a comment December 11, 2010

To you whose eyes are loaded with tears

O you whose mind has wandered in grief, O’ you whose eyes are loaded with tears; relax and know that your Creator aids, and that His mercy will bring you peace. And know that your reward is secure with He Who doesn’t disappoint the one who seeks to please Him. Be at peace, for after poverty comes joyous meeting, and after sleeplessness comes sound rest. O you who are oppressed in the lands, who suffer from hunger, pain, sickness and poverty, rejoice in the knowledge that you will soon be satisfied with food and that you will be happy and in good health.

Let us make these supplications, their purpose being to eliminate hardship, anxiety and grief:

“There is none worthy of worship except Allah, the Ever Forbearing, the Most Great. There is none worthy of worship except Allah, the Lord of the Tremendous Throne. There is none worthy of worship One Who sustains and protects all that exists, there is none worthy of worship except You, and by Your Mercy do we seek Your aid.”
“So be patient, with a good patience…” (Qur’an 70:5)

Add a comment December 11, 2010

The following lecture is relating to the previous post ….please do listen insha’Allah.

Lecture by Maulana Suleman ravat presenter on Radio Islam Southafrica.


May Allah make increase us in our Ilm,create love and unity amongst the Muslim ummah and remove the selfishness and bad thoughts we harbor for each other and enable us to utilize our time and efforts to assist humanity inshaAllah aameen .

Add a comment December 9, 2010

Make 70 excuses for your Brothers/Sisters in Islam.

Following on from the previous post …..

I was listening to a talk by Mufti Muhammad ibn Adam al Kawthari.

His talk was about thinking good about others and giving the other person the benefit of the doubt and not to be judgmental of others.Stay away from assumptions and being suspicious of other Muslims.Do not spread rumors and always think positively.

Remedy for such Ill thoughts which he mentioned are 1) as soon as a thought comes to mind seek Istigfaar( do the zikr of Allah) and 2) think about our own faults about how sinful we are.

From the words of Hamdun al-Qassar, one of the great early Muslims..

“If a friend among your friends errs, make seventy excuses for them. If your hearts are unable to do this, then know that the shortcoming is in your own selves [ibid]”

And the words of Imam Jafar as-Sadiq , “If you find see something you don’t like in a brother, try to find 1-70 excuses for him. And if you can’t find an excuse, say ‘There might be an excuse, but I don’t know it.’

Here are a few examples tell me what excuses you can come up with ?

a) It is salaah time and you are at a masjid. You see a local brother driving by in his car. Rather than stopping at the masjid, his car continues driving and goes out sight.

b)You see a Muslim brother/sister walking out of a nightclub……

c)What would you think if you saw a brother walking down the street with some random hijabi that you knew wasnt his sister or his wife?

d) You see a muslim couple seated at a table in a restaurant which sells haram food….

e) You see a Muslim niqabi/bearded guy  standing in a queue which sells lottery tickets?

f)Muslim couple was seen exiting a bar?
They could be billion more scenarios we can come up with,but the fact of the matter is any one of us could be in any of the above places for completely pure reasons,would we like to be judged for it? Would we want our Muslim brothers and sisters thinking and speaking badly of us?

It’s obvious as Muslims we should never give another person the chance to think badly of us,our outward and inward character should be such that we are seen as walking examples of the Sunnah.Our outlook should be that of a practicing Muslim,we should not attend and be near places of fitnah where sins are committed openly.

We should always have good thoughts of others and try to make an excuse for the person,for instance in scene (b) It could be the Muslim brother or sister went to give someone something,had to make and emergency phone call,maybe from the out side they had no idea it was a nightclub as they were visitors to the country etc….see I’m sure if we use or creative minds and think positively we can make up many excuses for our Muslim brothers/sisters Insha’Allah.

If we know for sure they are in the wrong we hide their faults/sins ,we sincerely make dua for them,take out sadaqah on their behalf,try to advise them in private if it’s someone you know.

As Muslims we should not only be concerned about perfecting our own Imaan,but we should have the concern for the entire muslim ummah…..

Allah(SWT) says in al-Qur’an-

“You are the best community raised up for mankind”(HQ 3:110)

“you enjoin that which is good”

“and you forbid that which is wrong”

Many times we feel shy about telling people that what they are doing is wrong. But we have a responsibility that extends not only to the non-Muslims, but the Muslims as well. The Prophet() said that we should help our brother whether he is wronged, or is doing wrong. The sahaba asked, “how do we help him if he is the one doing wrong?” The Prophet() said, “by holding him back from doing wrong.” In another hadith related in the sahih of al-Bukhari, the Prophet told a story where there was a boat in the ocean. One group of people were up on the deck, and another group were in the lower deck. Everytime the group in the lower deck wanted water, they had to go up and ask the people on the deck for water. Finally, they said “let us a make a hole in our part of the ship so we don’t have to bother them for water.” The Prophet said if the people on the deck left the people in the lowerdeck to do what they suggested, everyone would perish. But if they stopped them, then everyone would be safe.

Al-hamdu lillah for the wisdom of our Prophet(). In this hadith, he is telling us that if we don’t act by forbidding what is wrong, we will go drown along with everyone else, and know O you who believe – that the Qur’an and sunnah together are our flotation device in this sea of troubled waters. We cannot live in this society as it is, and realistically think that we can be righteous despite all that is around us. We cannot sit back and say, these are the problems of the non-Muslims,or it’s their( muslim so and so) so it doesn’t concern me. If in fact, we do believe this, then know that the ship is already sinking.

We shouldn’t think like that when we see another Muslim involved in sin,or their kids and families involved in such sins.Our eyes should shed tears on their behalf,our hearts should be filled with concern as to how can I help these muslims out of the sins they are in.

But do we really care ? 😦 our attitude is such that we care about our happiness only and our families if we’re that concern.”I am happy, I am okay as long as I am happy” we might not acknowledge that is our attitude but that is what our actions reflect and that’s the sad reality of the Muslim Ummah…”I have my home,my empire, my status, I couldn’t care less about others.We justify it and gloss it over by saying that “I mind my own business” and “I don’t get involved” . Is it about minding my own business or is it selfishness? . We need to forget about the ” I” and think about the “WE”…


Add a comment December 8, 2010

Do Not Despise The Sinners

The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace) said: “That person who taunts and ridicules his Muslim brother over a sin from which he has repented, will not die until he himself commits that same sin.” For example, you come to know that a certain person committed or was involved in a particular sin and you also know that this person has repented from it. To think low of him or to taunt or ridicule him because of that sin, by saying something like: “You are the one who was involved in certain evil actions”, is in itself a sin.

Read the entire article… http://deoband.org/2009/10/general/g…e-the-sinners/


Add a comment December 8, 2010






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