Unfolding a rose

A young, new ustadh (teacher) was walking with an older, more seasoned ustadh (teacher) in the garden one day. Feeling a bit insecure about what Allah had for him to do, he was asking the older ustadh for some advice. The older ustadh walked up to a rosebush and handed the young ustadh a rosebud and told him to open it without tearing off any petals. The young ustadh looked in disbelief at the older ustadh and was trying to figure out what a rosebud could possibly have to do with his wanting to know the will of Allah for his life and ministry.

But because of his great respect for the older ustadh, he proceeded to try to unfold the rose, while keeping every petal intact… It wasn’t long before he realized how impossible this was to do. Noticing the younger ustadh’s inability to unfold the rosebud without tearing it, the older ustadh began to recite the following poem…

It is only a tiny rosebud,
A flower of Allah’s design;
But I cannot unfold the petals
With these clumsy hands of mine.

The secret of unfolding flowers
Is not known to such as I.
ALLAH opens this flower so sweetly,
Then in my hands they die.

If I cannot unfold a rosebud,
This flower of Allah’s design,
Then how can I have the wisdom
To unfold this life of mine?

So I’ll trust in Allah for leading
Each moment of my day.
I will look to Allah for His guidance
Each step of the way.

The pathway that lies before me,
Only Allah knows.
I’ll trust Him to unfold the moments,
Just as He unfolds the rose.


Add a comment December 7, 2010

This Message is to You O Concealed Jewel, O Protected Rose !

It is to you, the Cultivator of Generations, Producer of Great Men. I will point out in it some of what Islam requires of the individual and the society concerning the rights of women …..

1. Have you seen the Jewel? Why is it that the people love it while it is simply a piece of stone? It is because it is not so easy to see it, nor can you touch it except by paying an exorbitant price. Similar is the case of the woman – it is forbidden for a man to see her or touch her, in order that he does not dishonor her. She is like an untouched (pure) jewel, which is affected by the least touch.

2. Have you seen how a rose wilts, withers, and loses it luster and beauty if it is touched too much. Likewise, the woman is not allowed to be touched except by one in a lawful relationship of marriage. And whoever attempts to touch her – unlawfully – will earn a severe punishment or death.

3. Do you know the punishment for one who violates the marriage trust and cheats on his wife? The penalty is death, since he has fallen short in regards to the jewel which is with him, in addition to transgressing the rights of others.

4. Have you seen a jewel searching for a person (to possess it)? The same is the case of the women, like a precious jewel, she is the one who is sought out, not the seeker. It is incumbent upon the man to seek her hand. And if she agrees to marry him, then he will present to her a marriage dowry and something from his wealth.

5. Consider the Ruler or Head of State – if every one were able to speak to him directly and sit in his presence, he wouldn’t be held in awe, nor possess the same prestige and status amongst the people that he has. Similarly, the woman is like a noble Queen. It is not the right of every person to speak to her directly or sit in her presence; this is something allowed to the select few.

6. The Supreme Being has created the male strong of body in order that he may go out and earn his livelihood, even in difficult circumstances. This is so that he may serve the women and children of his family. As for the woman, she has been created gentle, soft and sensitive, so that she may cultivate the future generations. The man goes out and works with the natural elements, while the woman deals with the human being (raising the children).

7. What do you think would happen if a lion and gazelle were placed together in one place? Is it possible for them to co-exist? Obviously not! Likewise, it is of necessity that the man be separated from the woman, in the interest of the woman. She is beautiful, attractive and weak. Hence, the strong will overcome her and devour her and violate her chastity – even if she were not willing.

8. The woman who performs work equal to the work of a man is entitled to – and is given – the same salary as the man.

9. The woman is allowed to work in any occupation, which she is capable of, as long as it is in consonance with the nature of her delicate physique.

10. The woman – like man – is addressed in the divine revelation with responsibilities for which she – like man – is equally rewarded.

11. The woman is excused from certain religious ceremonies and obligations during her post-child birth and menstrual periods, since these conditions are a cause of weakness and hence, she is in need of rest and relaxation.

12. If a woman dies while giving birth to a child, she is rewarded with the highest station in Paradise.

13. The person who is killed while defending his mother, wife, daughter or sister will be rewarded with the highest station in Paradise.

14. It is permissible for a woman to seek a separation from her husband if he has failed to fulfill her marital rights.

15. Is there anything more valuable to the human being than his life? Indeed, the honor and dignity of women is more valuable, precious and important to the Muslim than his own life.

16. It is permissible for the woman to remarry – whomever she desires – if he is divorced from her husband or widowed.

17. If a woman possesses wealth, she is free to use it in any lawful way, without permission of anyone [father, husband or others].

18. The woman has the right to the inheritance of her relative – at the time of his death – even if he does not desire that she receive it.

19. It is obligatory upon the man to spend his wealth for the maintenance – housing, food, etc. – of those under his care including his mother, wife or daughter, even if he doesn’t desire to do so.

20. The mother has been given preference over the father – three times over – concerning their right to kindness and benevolence from their children.

21. Whoever truly desires paradise – Know that paradise lies at the feet of the mother, for the one who pleases her.

22. Whoever has daughters and treats them well – they will be a cause of him being screened from the hell-fire.

23. If a man kills a woman intentionally, he no longer deserves to live and will be killed, even if the victim was his wife.

24. The Messenger of Allah – Blessings of Allah and Peace be Upon him – advised concerning the woman: Treat the women well. He also said: The best of you are those who are the best in the treatment of their wives.He also said: No one honors the woman except an honorable man. And no one humiliates her or holds her in contempt except one who is evil, vile, wicked and depraved.

With these words I address you – as someone of intelligence: Is there any greater Honor than this?


Add a comment December 6, 2010

Lower your gaze..

“It is very difficult to remove your gaze once it has already settled on a ghayr mahram.

If your gaze is protected, your heart remains pure, but if you do not protect your gaze, the heart becomes impure and filthy.

Once a person finds a ghayr mahram attractive, slowly and with time, they will stop finding their marital partner attractive, and love for them will begin to decrease, giving rise to arguments and disunity within the marriage.

If you safeguard your gaze, you will only have room in your heart for your marital partner.

Many homes have been broken due to non-observance of the rules of hijab by both men and women, yet they remain ignorant of the cause. May Allah ta’aala protect us.”


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character over beauty ..

“A poet says that beauty is temporary whilst good character is permanent. Whereas beauty pleases the eyes it is good character which pleases the heart.”

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Wow : )

Imam Tabraani (RA) has narrated from Hazrat Anas that the Prophet Muhammad SAW once asked the Sahaba (RA)

‘…Should I inform you which of your women shall enter Jannah?’ When the Sahaba requested to be informed, the Prophet of Allah SAW said,

‘The women who has tremendous love for her husband, who bears many children and when she gets angry or is ill-treated or when her husband becomes angry, she (takes his hand in hers and) tells him, ‘My hand is yours. I shall not line my eyes with sleep (I shall not have any rest) until you are pleased’.

(At-Targheeb wat Tarheeb Vol. 4 Pg. 125)

May Allah swt make us muslimahs to be like  such a woman, a woman  who will be amongst the women of Jannah and one whose husbands are pleased with them insha’Allah aameen .

1 comment December 4, 2010

A Beautiful Dua

“O Allah, make my love for You the most beloved thing to me, and my fear for You the most fearful thing to me, and remove from me all worldly needs and wants by instilling a passion for meeting You, and when You have given the people of the world the pleasures of their world, make the coolness of my eyes (pleasure) in worshiping You.” Ameen.

1 comment November 30, 2010

Benefit of the doubt!

As my first post stated there is no Justifying from an Islamic perspective a Muslimah leaving home with her face all made up.

In defense of my sisters,we should not be judgmental but give them the benefit of the doubt there could be many reasons why sisters wear make up:

*lack of knowledge
*lack of confidence
*influenced by this society where everything is based on the way we look
*influenced by others around them.

We all face our own individual trails we have to fight,some are easier for some to suppress than it is for others.Most of the times it’s just our nafs telling us to do stuff and that’s why they say the biggest jihad isn’t only about fighting in the path of Allah swt but controlling our nafs(desires) when we follow these desires it leads us to bigger and worst sins. May Allah save us aameen.

Living in the west amongst non Muslims is not easy for Muslim youth males or females.Women are portrayed as sex objects and the most glamorous creatures,which becomes a fitnah for Muslim males and they struggle with controlling their gazes and desires.For a Muslim female the one’s who deal with peer pressure,one’s who are brainwashed by the western society or those with an inferiority complex. Their struggle is to compete with the non Muslim woman,they want to adopt their dress code, their way of life in order to blend into a society that is steeped in immorality.

Some Muslim men don’t make it any easier for our muslim sisters,they gape an ogle at the skimpy dressed ladies that walk the street and will scorn or look down at their muslims sisters.Women who are dress in hijab/jilbab, do their husbands appreciate that they are concealing their selves for them? Do these men praise their wives and refrain from ogling the non muslim women? Does it make it any better that a Muslim woman is trying to obey the commands of Allah swt by concealing herself yet her mahrams do not appreciate it? Tell me what does this to that sister who is not strong in her Imaan? She then wants to make herself beautiful for the outside world,yearning for that appreciation and the attention she doesn’t get from her Muslim peers.This causes them to dress the way they do.

So my Brothers in Islam appreciate the beautiful gems that Allah swt has blessed you with,encourage them to dress modestly and praise them for doing so.Treat them as they are to be treated,shower them with compliments and this will boost the self confidence of those sisters who are not that strong in faith.

As Muslimas we don’t need to be ashamed of the way we are dressed or compete with the skimpy clad women.We are the hidden gems,veiled pearls,the crystals that Allah swt has created with His own hands. Muslim women are Queens and are to be protected and cared for,love and appreciated not exposed and exploited.True self-esteem comes from valuing your inner self let’s stop being dependent on our outside and find our true inner confidence.We believe in Allah swt and our purpose in this temporary dunya is not to follow the ways of the non muslims but to obey and worship the Creator of the Creation Allah Ta’ala.

No one’s perfect,we all have flaws and imperfections.Some are weaker than others,for some our Imaan is such that we Hear and obey others they need motivation,encouragement and a good environment.So instead of judging and looking for the faults of others we work on perfecting ourselves and creating the connection with Allah swt.We try to motivate each other with hiqmah,be warm and friendly and lead by example.

There is no better key to unlock the heart than kindness in giving advice, gentleness in exhortation and softness in speech as the Prophet (sallAllahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) has said, “Kindness is not to be found in anything but that it adds to its beauty, and it is not withdrawn from anything but it makes it defective.” [Muslim]

2 comments November 29, 2010

1 comment November 27, 2010

A Muslim Woman …..

A Muslim Woman is Required to Dress a Certain Way When She Goes Out in Public!

For a Muslim woman, her modest dress is an expression of a universal sisterhood. An Islamic dress also liberates the Muslim woman, and she is then automatically respected for her mind instead of her body. Simply put, she retains her dignity! It is like saying: I am a respectful woman. I am not for every man to look at, touch, or speak to. I am protected, exactly like a precious white pearl which, if touched by everyone, will become black and dirty.

A woman’s modest dress protects society from adultery and other forms of illegal sexual relations that lead to the break up of families and corruption of society.


Add a comment November 27, 2010

So can you? Can I …..?

Hmm… So I start my first post here about a question someone had asked,which is “Sisters can you justify wearing makeup when you leave the house?” ………………..Justify from an Islamic perspective that is. So can you?

The question was directed towards practicing Muslim sisters who Masha’Allah wears hijab(headscarf) and some also donn the abaya (outer garment which covers the body).They pray on time, fast, and follow the sunnah. Yet when it comes to makeup they often come up with feeble excuses to do with self confidence and : ” I don’t put it on to draw attention, simply to boost my self esteem” . Some say they feel more secure as by wearing makeup they blend in with the rest.Secure? By wearing makeup it causes you to feel more secure?…..hmmm not sure about that one.

I’m sure many will agree including brothers – That those sisters who wear makeup though your intention with makeup may be solely based on increasing your confidence etc. The fact of the matter is makeup beautifies a woman, it covers any imperfections in the skin, it accentuates the eyes and thus undoubtedly you will draw attention from men. Unfortunately some muslim women have sunk to such a level where they need attention from non mahrams to make themselves feel better, I pray this sickness is cured from the hearts of any our sisters and I pray that the sisters who do wear makeup and do so with an innocent mind ; oblivious to how mens minds work ,realize that makeup will draw attention from others.

Won’t Niqab cause you to be more secure than wearing makeup?

Since wearing niqab at the age of 19 I have felt more secure than those times when the lustful gazes of men stared back at me……Niqab have liberated me,it has boost my self confidence and most of all it has brought me closer to my Creator Alhumdulillah.

Make up enhances the beauty of a woman no doubt!! There is no rule that says a Muslimah is to look like a slob and she can’t look like a “Beauty Queen” or as if she’s just stepped off the “Catwalk”.Yes she can,she’s encouraged to do so and there is tremendous of rewards for a woman to beautify herself for her husband within the confines of her home.Who else deserves to see her all dolled up? the perverted men on the streets or the Husband whom Allah swt has blessed her with?.

So yup sisters you can dress down and have the works for your husband and mahrams. 🙂

قل للمؤمنين يغضوا من أبصارهم ويحفظوا فروجهم ذلك أزكى لهم إن الله خبير بما يصنعون وقل للمؤمنات يغضضن من أبصارهن ويحفظن فروجهن ولا يبدين زينتهن إلا ما ظهر منها وليضربن بخمرهن على جيوبهن ولا يبدين زينتهن إلا لبعولتهن أو آبائهن أو آباء بعولتهن أو أبنائهن أو أبناء بعولتهن أو إخوانهن أو بني إخوانهن أو بني أخواتهن أو نسائهن أو ما ملكت أيمانهن أو التابعين غير أولي الإربة من الرجال أو الطفل الذين لم يظهروا على عورات النساء ولا يضربن بأرجلهن ليعلم ما يخفين من زينتهن وتوبوا إلى الله جميعا أيها المؤمنون لعلكم تفلحون

“Tell the believing men that they must lower their gazes and guard their private parts; it is more decent for them. Surely Allah is All-Aware of what they do. And tell the believing women that they must lower their gazes and guard their private parts, and must not expose their adornment, except that which appears thereof, and must wrap their bosoms with their shawls, and must not expose their adornment, except to their husbands or their fathers or the fathers of their husbands, or to their sons or the sons of their husbands, or to their brothers or the sons of their brothers or the sons of their sisters, or to their women, or to those owned by their right hands, or male attendants having no (sexual) urge, or to the children who are not yet conscious of the shames of women. And let them not stamp their feet in a way that the adornment they conceal is known. And repent to Allah O believers, all of you, so that you may achieve success”. (24:30-31)

These verses clearly indicate the necessity of hijab and that a woman’s adornments are limited to her mehrams. Women are precious jewels of the Ummah and it is the wisdom of Allah Ta’ala that they conceal their beauty. Hijab/Niqab preserves a woman’s dignity, honor and modesty. Modesty is an essential quality for a true Muslim. Several Hadiths indicate the importance of modesty:

“The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: ‘Faith consists of more than seventy branches. And haya (modesty) is a part of faith.’” (al-Bukhari)

الحياء من الإيمان والإيمان فى الجنة والبذاء من الجفاء والجفاء فى النار

“Modesty is from Iman, and Iman leads you to Paradise. Shamelessness is from futile things, and futile things lead you to the fire of Hell. (Sunan Al-Tirmidhi, Vol. 2, P. 21, HM Saeed)

إن لكل دين خلقا وخلق الإسلام الحياء

“Verily in every religion there is morality, the morality of Islam is modesty”. (Sunan Ibn Majah)

الحياء لا يأتى إلا بخير

“Modesty does not come except with good”. (Sahih Muslim)

Modesty in our actions,the way we dress and conduct ourselves.A Muslim woman is obliged to preserve her beauty and body from the preying eyes of ghair mahram and beautify herself for those allowed to see her.

So no justifying leaving home looking like “Drama Queen” with makeup.

May Allah Ta’ala guide all of us aameen wa thumma aameen

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