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Wow haven’t posted anything here in almost 3 months.Ah ! well better little than none…

Just thought I’ll post the following advices I found somewhere….I had written them down ages ago whilst listening to a bayan by Shaykh Sulaiman Moola .

Four Hiqmas of Dawood A.S

A sign of  intellect in a man is that he has four moments in his life:

1) A moment daily where he communicates with his Creator Almighty Allah

2) A moment where he does some soul-searching and introspection.

3)A moment where he socializes with his friends who can help him identify his wrong so he can improve him self.

4)A moment where he satisfies his needs and desires within the perimeters of shariah.

May Allah grant us the ability to practice one these 4 hiqmas aameen ..


Add a comment March 20, 2011

Make 70 excuses for your Brothers/Sisters in Islam.

Following on from the previous post …..

I was listening to a talk by Mufti Muhammad ibn Adam al Kawthari.

His talk was about thinking good about others and giving the other person the benefit of the doubt and not to be judgmental of others.Stay away from assumptions and being suspicious of other Muslims.Do not spread rumors and always think positively.

Remedy for such Ill thoughts which he mentioned are 1) as soon as a thought comes to mind seek Istigfaar( do the zikr of Allah) and 2) think about our own faults about how sinful we are.

From the words of Hamdun al-Qassar, one of the great early Muslims..

“If a friend among your friends errs, make seventy excuses for them. If your hearts are unable to do this, then know that the shortcoming is in your own selves [ibid]”

And the words of Imam Jafar as-Sadiq , “If you find see something you don’t like in a brother, try to find 1-70 excuses for him. And if you can’t find an excuse, say ‘There might be an excuse, but I don’t know it.’

Here are a few examples tell me what excuses you can come up with ?

a) It is salaah time and you are at a masjid. You see a local brother driving by in his car. Rather than stopping at the masjid, his car continues driving and goes out sight.

b)You see a Muslim brother/sister walking out of a nightclub……

c)What would you think if you saw a brother walking down the street with some random hijabi that you knew wasnt his sister or his wife?

d) You see a muslim couple seated at a table in a restaurant which sells haram food….

e) You see a Muslim niqabi/bearded guy  standing in a queue which sells lottery tickets?

f)Muslim couple was seen exiting a bar?
They could be billion more scenarios we can come up with,but the fact of the matter is any one of us could be in any of the above places for completely pure reasons,would we like to be judged for it? Would we want our Muslim brothers and sisters thinking and speaking badly of us?

It’s obvious as Muslims we should never give another person the chance to think badly of us,our outward and inward character should be such that we are seen as walking examples of the Sunnah.Our outlook should be that of a practicing Muslim,we should not attend and be near places of fitnah where sins are committed openly.

We should always have good thoughts of others and try to make an excuse for the person,for instance in scene (b) It could be the Muslim brother or sister went to give someone something,had to make and emergency phone call,maybe from the out side they had no idea it was a nightclub as they were visitors to the country etc….see I’m sure if we use or creative minds and think positively we can make up many excuses for our Muslim brothers/sisters Insha’Allah.

If we know for sure they are in the wrong we hide their faults/sins ,we sincerely make dua for them,take out sadaqah on their behalf,try to advise them in private if it’s someone you know.

As Muslims we should not only be concerned about perfecting our own Imaan,but we should have the concern for the entire muslim ummah…..

Allah(SWT) says in al-Qur’an-

“You are the best community raised up for mankind”(HQ 3:110)

“you enjoin that which is good”

“and you forbid that which is wrong”

Many times we feel shy about telling people that what they are doing is wrong. But we have a responsibility that extends not only to the non-Muslims, but the Muslims as well. The Prophet() said that we should help our brother whether he is wronged, or is doing wrong. The sahaba asked, “how do we help him if he is the one doing wrong?” The Prophet() said, “by holding him back from doing wrong.” In another hadith related in the sahih of al-Bukhari, the Prophet told a story where there was a boat in the ocean. One group of people were up on the deck, and another group were in the lower deck. Everytime the group in the lower deck wanted water, they had to go up and ask the people on the deck for water. Finally, they said “let us a make a hole in our part of the ship so we don’t have to bother them for water.” The Prophet said if the people on the deck left the people in the lowerdeck to do what they suggested, everyone would perish. But if they stopped them, then everyone would be safe.

Al-hamdu lillah for the wisdom of our Prophet(). In this hadith, he is telling us that if we don’t act by forbidding what is wrong, we will go drown along with everyone else, and know O you who believe – that the Qur’an and sunnah together are our flotation device in this sea of troubled waters. We cannot live in this society as it is, and realistically think that we can be righteous despite all that is around us. We cannot sit back and say, these are the problems of the non-Muslims,or it’s their( muslim so and so) so it doesn’t concern me. If in fact, we do believe this, then know that the ship is already sinking.

We shouldn’t think like that when we see another Muslim involved in sin,or their kids and families involved in such sins.Our eyes should shed tears on their behalf,our hearts should be filled with concern as to how can I help these muslims out of the sins they are in.

But do we really care ? 😦 our attitude is such that we care about our happiness only and our families if we’re that concern.”I am happy, I am okay as long as I am happy” we might not acknowledge that is our attitude but that is what our actions reflect and that’s the sad reality of the Muslim Ummah…”I have my home,my empire, my status, I couldn’t care less about others.We justify it and gloss it over by saying that “I mind my own business” and “I don’t get involved” . Is it about minding my own business or is it selfishness? . We need to forget about the ” I” and think about the “WE”…


Add a comment December 8, 2010

Do Not Despise The Sinners

The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace) said: “That person who taunts and ridicules his Muslim brother over a sin from which he has repented, will not die until he himself commits that same sin.” For example, you come to know that a certain person committed or was involved in a particular sin and you also know that this person has repented from it. To think low of him or to taunt or ridicule him because of that sin, by saying something like: “You are the one who was involved in certain evil actions”, is in itself a sin.

Read the entire article……e-the-sinners/


Add a comment December 8, 2010

Unfolding a rose

A young, new ustadh (teacher) was walking with an older, more seasoned ustadh (teacher) in the garden one day. Feeling a bit insecure about what Allah had for him to do, he was asking the older ustadh for some advice. The older ustadh walked up to a rosebush and handed the young ustadh a rosebud and told him to open it without tearing off any petals. The young ustadh looked in disbelief at the older ustadh and was trying to figure out what a rosebud could possibly have to do with his wanting to know the will of Allah for his life and ministry.

But because of his great respect for the older ustadh, he proceeded to try to unfold the rose, while keeping every petal intact… It wasn’t long before he realized how impossible this was to do. Noticing the younger ustadh’s inability to unfold the rosebud without tearing it, the older ustadh began to recite the following poem…

It is only a tiny rosebud,
A flower of Allah’s design;
But I cannot unfold the petals
With these clumsy hands of mine.

The secret of unfolding flowers
Is not known to such as I.
ALLAH opens this flower so sweetly,
Then in my hands they die.

If I cannot unfold a rosebud,
This flower of Allah’s design,
Then how can I have the wisdom
To unfold this life of mine?

So I’ll trust in Allah for leading
Each moment of my day.
I will look to Allah for His guidance
Each step of the way.

The pathway that lies before me,
Only Allah knows.
I’ll trust Him to unfold the moments,
Just as He unfolds the rose.

Add a comment December 7, 2010

This Message is to You O Concealed Jewel, O Protected Rose !

It is to you, the Cultivator of Generations, Producer of Great Men. I will point out in it some of what Islam requires of the individual and the society concerning the rights of women …..

1. Have you seen the Jewel? Why is it that the people love it while it is simply a piece of stone? It is because it is not so easy to see it, nor can you touch it except by paying an exorbitant price. Similar is the case of the woman – it is forbidden for a man to see her or touch her, in order that he does not dishonor her. She is like an untouched (pure) jewel, which is affected by the least touch.

2. Have you seen how a rose wilts, withers, and loses it luster and beauty if it is touched too much. Likewise, the woman is not allowed to be touched except by one in a lawful relationship of marriage. And whoever attempts to touch her – unlawfully – will earn a severe punishment or death.

3. Do you know the punishment for one who violates the marriage trust and cheats on his wife? The penalty is death, since he has fallen short in regards to the jewel which is with him, in addition to transgressing the rights of others.

4. Have you seen a jewel searching for a person (to possess it)? The same is the case of the women, like a precious jewel, she is the one who is sought out, not the seeker. It is incumbent upon the man to seek her hand. And if she agrees to marry him, then he will present to her a marriage dowry and something from his wealth.

5. Consider the Ruler or Head of State – if every one were able to speak to him directly and sit in his presence, he wouldn’t be held in awe, nor possess the same prestige and status amongst the people that he has. Similarly, the woman is like a noble Queen. It is not the right of every person to speak to her directly or sit in her presence; this is something allowed to the select few.

6. The Supreme Being has created the male strong of body in order that he may go out and earn his livelihood, even in difficult circumstances. This is so that he may serve the women and children of his family. As for the woman, she has been created gentle, soft and sensitive, so that she may cultivate the future generations. The man goes out and works with the natural elements, while the woman deals with the human being (raising the children).

7. What do you think would happen if a lion and gazelle were placed together in one place? Is it possible for them to co-exist? Obviously not! Likewise, it is of necessity that the man be separated from the woman, in the interest of the woman. She is beautiful, attractive and weak. Hence, the strong will overcome her and devour her and violate her chastity – even if she were not willing.

8. The woman who performs work equal to the work of a man is entitled to – and is given – the same salary as the man.

9. The woman is allowed to work in any occupation, which she is capable of, as long as it is in consonance with the nature of her delicate physique.

10. The woman – like man – is addressed in the divine revelation with responsibilities for which she – like man – is equally rewarded.

11. The woman is excused from certain religious ceremonies and obligations during her post-child birth and menstrual periods, since these conditions are a cause of weakness and hence, she is in need of rest and relaxation.

12. If a woman dies while giving birth to a child, she is rewarded with the highest station in Paradise.

13. The person who is killed while defending his mother, wife, daughter or sister will be rewarded with the highest station in Paradise.

14. It is permissible for a woman to seek a separation from her husband if he has failed to fulfill her marital rights.

15. Is there anything more valuable to the human being than his life? Indeed, the honor and dignity of women is more valuable, precious and important to the Muslim than his own life.

16. It is permissible for the woman to remarry – whomever she desires – if he is divorced from her husband or widowed.

17. If a woman possesses wealth, she is free to use it in any lawful way, without permission of anyone [father, husband or others].

18. The woman has the right to the inheritance of her relative – at the time of his death – even if he does not desire that she receive it.

19. It is obligatory upon the man to spend his wealth for the maintenance – housing, food, etc. – of those under his care including his mother, wife or daughter, even if he doesn’t desire to do so.

20. The mother has been given preference over the father – three times over – concerning their right to kindness and benevolence from their children.

21. Whoever truly desires paradise – Know that paradise lies at the feet of the mother, for the one who pleases her.

22. Whoever has daughters and treats them well – they will be a cause of him being screened from the hell-fire.

23. If a man kills a woman intentionally, he no longer deserves to live and will be killed, even if the victim was his wife.

24. The Messenger of Allah – Blessings of Allah and Peace be Upon him – advised concerning the woman: Treat the women well. He also said: The best of you are those who are the best in the treatment of their wives.He also said: No one honors the woman except an honorable man. And no one humiliates her or holds her in contempt except one who is evil, vile, wicked and depraved.

With these words I address you – as someone of intelligence: Is there any greater Honor than this?

Add a comment December 6, 2010

Wow : )

Imam Tabraani (RA) has narrated from Hazrat Anas that the Prophet Muhammad SAW once asked the Sahaba (RA)

‘…Should I inform you which of your women shall enter Jannah?’ When the Sahaba requested to be informed, the Prophet of Allah SAW said,

‘The women who has tremendous love for her husband, who bears many children and when she gets angry or is ill-treated or when her husband becomes angry, she (takes his hand in hers and) tells him, ‘My hand is yours. I shall not line my eyes with sleep (I shall not have any rest) until you are pleased’.

(At-Targheeb wat Tarheeb Vol. 4 Pg. 125)

May Allah swt make us muslimahs to be like  such a woman, a woman  who will be amongst the women of Jannah and one whose husbands are pleased with them insha’Allah aameen .

1 comment December 4, 2010

Benefit of the doubt!

As my first post stated there is no Justifying from an Islamic perspective a Muslimah leaving home with her face all made up.

In defense of my sisters,we should not be judgmental but give them the benefit of the doubt there could be many reasons why sisters wear make up:

*lack of knowledge
*lack of confidence
*influenced by this society where everything is based on the way we look
*influenced by others around them.

We all face our own individual trails we have to fight,some are easier for some to suppress than it is for others.Most of the times it’s just our nafs telling us to do stuff and that’s why they say the biggest jihad isn’t only about fighting in the path of Allah swt but controlling our nafs(desires) when we follow these desires it leads us to bigger and worst sins. May Allah save us aameen.

Living in the west amongst non Muslims is not easy for Muslim youth males or females.Women are portrayed as sex objects and the most glamorous creatures,which becomes a fitnah for Muslim males and they struggle with controlling their gazes and desires.For a Muslim female the one’s who deal with peer pressure,one’s who are brainwashed by the western society or those with an inferiority complex. Their struggle is to compete with the non Muslim woman,they want to adopt their dress code, their way of life in order to blend into a society that is steeped in immorality.

Some Muslim men don’t make it any easier for our muslim sisters,they gape an ogle at the skimpy dressed ladies that walk the street and will scorn or look down at their muslims sisters.Women who are dress in hijab/jilbab, do their husbands appreciate that they are concealing their selves for them? Do these men praise their wives and refrain from ogling the non muslim women? Does it make it any better that a Muslim woman is trying to obey the commands of Allah swt by concealing herself yet her mahrams do not appreciate it? Tell me what does this to that sister who is not strong in her Imaan? She then wants to make herself beautiful for the outside world,yearning for that appreciation and the attention she doesn’t get from her Muslim peers.This causes them to dress the way they do.

So my Brothers in Islam appreciate the beautiful gems that Allah swt has blessed you with,encourage them to dress modestly and praise them for doing so.Treat them as they are to be treated,shower them with compliments and this will boost the self confidence of those sisters who are not that strong in faith.

As Muslimas we don’t need to be ashamed of the way we are dressed or compete with the skimpy clad women.We are the hidden gems,veiled pearls,the crystals that Allah swt has created with His own hands. Muslim women are Queens and are to be protected and cared for,love and appreciated not exposed and exploited.True self-esteem comes from valuing your inner self let’s stop being dependent on our outside and find our true inner confidence.We believe in Allah swt and our purpose in this temporary dunya is not to follow the ways of the non muslims but to obey and worship the Creator of the Creation Allah Ta’ala.

No one’s perfect,we all have flaws and imperfections.Some are weaker than others,for some our Imaan is such that we Hear and obey others they need motivation,encouragement and a good environment.So instead of judging and looking for the faults of others we work on perfecting ourselves and creating the connection with Allah swt.We try to motivate each other with hiqmah,be warm and friendly and lead by example.

There is no better key to unlock the heart than kindness in giving advice, gentleness in exhortation and softness in speech as the Prophet (sallAllahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) has said, “Kindness is not to be found in anything but that it adds to its beauty, and it is not withdrawn from anything but it makes it defective.” [Muslim]

2 comments November 29, 2010

A Muslim Woman …..

A Muslim Woman is Required to Dress a Certain Way When She Goes Out in Public!

For a Muslim woman, her modest dress is an expression of a universal sisterhood. An Islamic dress also liberates the Muslim woman, and she is then automatically respected for her mind instead of her body. Simply put, she retains her dignity! It is like saying: I am a respectful woman. I am not for every man to look at, touch, or speak to. I am protected, exactly like a precious white pearl which, if touched by everyone, will become black and dirty.

A woman’s modest dress protects society from adultery and other forms of illegal sexual relations that lead to the break up of families and corruption of society.


Add a comment November 27, 2010

So can you? Can I …..?

Hmm… So I start my first post here about a question someone had asked,which is “Sisters can you justify wearing makeup when you leave the house?” ………………..Justify from an Islamic perspective that is. So can you?

The question was directed towards practicing Muslim sisters who Masha’Allah wears hijab(headscarf) and some also donn the abaya (outer garment which covers the body).They pray on time, fast, and follow the sunnah. Yet when it comes to makeup they often come up with feeble excuses to do with self confidence and : ” I don’t put it on to draw attention, simply to boost my self esteem” . Some say they feel more secure as by wearing makeup they blend in with the rest.Secure? By wearing makeup it causes you to feel more secure?…..hmmm not sure about that one.

I’m sure many will agree including brothers – That those sisters who wear makeup though your intention with makeup may be solely based on increasing your confidence etc. The fact of the matter is makeup beautifies a woman, it covers any imperfections in the skin, it accentuates the eyes and thus undoubtedly you will draw attention from men. Unfortunately some muslim women have sunk to such a level where they need attention from non mahrams to make themselves feel better, I pray this sickness is cured from the hearts of any our sisters and I pray that the sisters who do wear makeup and do so with an innocent mind ; oblivious to how mens minds work ,realize that makeup will draw attention from others.

Won’t Niqab cause you to be more secure than wearing makeup?

Since wearing niqab at the age of 19 I have felt more secure than those times when the lustful gazes of men stared back at me……Niqab have liberated me,it has boost my self confidence and most of all it has brought me closer to my Creator Alhumdulillah.

Make up enhances the beauty of a woman no doubt!! There is no rule that says a Muslimah is to look like a slob and she can’t look like a “Beauty Queen” or as if she’s just stepped off the “Catwalk”.Yes she can,she’s encouraged to do so and there is tremendous of rewards for a woman to beautify herself for her husband within the confines of her home.Who else deserves to see her all dolled up? the perverted men on the streets or the Husband whom Allah swt has blessed her with?.

So yup sisters you can dress down and have the works for your husband and mahrams. 🙂

قل للمؤمنين يغضوا من أبصارهم ويحفظوا فروجهم ذلك أزكى لهم إن الله خبير بما يصنعون وقل للمؤمنات يغضضن من أبصارهن ويحفظن فروجهن ولا يبدين زينتهن إلا ما ظهر منها وليضربن بخمرهن على جيوبهن ولا يبدين زينتهن إلا لبعولتهن أو آبائهن أو آباء بعولتهن أو أبنائهن أو أبناء بعولتهن أو إخوانهن أو بني إخوانهن أو بني أخواتهن أو نسائهن أو ما ملكت أيمانهن أو التابعين غير أولي الإربة من الرجال أو الطفل الذين لم يظهروا على عورات النساء ولا يضربن بأرجلهن ليعلم ما يخفين من زينتهن وتوبوا إلى الله جميعا أيها المؤمنون لعلكم تفلحون

“Tell the believing men that they must lower their gazes and guard their private parts; it is more decent for them. Surely Allah is All-Aware of what they do. And tell the believing women that they must lower their gazes and guard their private parts, and must not expose their adornment, except that which appears thereof, and must wrap their bosoms with their shawls, and must not expose their adornment, except to their husbands or their fathers or the fathers of their husbands, or to their sons or the sons of their husbands, or to their brothers or the sons of their brothers or the sons of their sisters, or to their women, or to those owned by their right hands, or male attendants having no (sexual) urge, or to the children who are not yet conscious of the shames of women. And let them not stamp their feet in a way that the adornment they conceal is known. And repent to Allah O believers, all of you, so that you may achieve success”. (24:30-31)

These verses clearly indicate the necessity of hijab and that a woman’s adornments are limited to her mehrams. Women are precious jewels of the Ummah and it is the wisdom of Allah Ta’ala that they conceal their beauty. Hijab/Niqab preserves a woman’s dignity, honor and modesty. Modesty is an essential quality for a true Muslim. Several Hadiths indicate the importance of modesty:

“The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: ‘Faith consists of more than seventy branches. And haya (modesty) is a part of faith.’” (al-Bukhari)

الحياء من الإيمان والإيمان فى الجنة والبذاء من الجفاء والجفاء فى النار

“Modesty is from Iman, and Iman leads you to Paradise. Shamelessness is from futile things, and futile things lead you to the fire of Hell. (Sunan Al-Tirmidhi, Vol. 2, P. 21, HM Saeed)

إن لكل دين خلقا وخلق الإسلام الحياء

“Verily in every religion there is morality, the morality of Islam is modesty”. (Sunan Ibn Majah)

الحياء لا يأتى إلا بخير

“Modesty does not come except with good”. (Sahih Muslim)

Modesty in our actions,the way we dress and conduct ourselves.A Muslim woman is obliged to preserve her beauty and body from the preying eyes of ghair mahram and beautify herself for those allowed to see her.

So no justifying leaving home looking like “Drama Queen” with makeup.

May Allah Ta’ala guide all of us aameen wa thumma aameen

Add a comment November 27, 2010






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